Back to Back, Guns Out

You know those classic movie scenes where the gun fighting pair have their backs against each other and are shooting everyone in sight? I love those scenes!

It makes sense, if your backs are together you can't shoot your partner. If your backs are together then you know who the bad guys are...everyone else.

This may be a slightly cynical view of a solid relationship, but it paints a nice picture of whose team you are on and where the obstacles are. In a marriage, it's important to remember you are ON THE SAME TEAM as your spouse.

Sometimes in marriage, it's as if things are crumbling and the world is picking a fight. It's at times like these when lovers can turn their fear, anger, and frustration inward...toward their spouse. This is easy to do because the spouse:

• is always around, 
• is easy to pick on (because you know their vulnerabilities), 
• can take a few hits before they get mad (unlike a coworker or random person you encounter), 
• affects your daily plans.

Even though your spouse is an easy target, picking on them won't change the fact that your car broke down on the interstate on the same day your washer gave out.

On the contrary, realizing that your spouse is on your side can shift your perspective on the world and/or your marriage. Sometimes the world is a cold place and a spouse should be a warm place to run. Sometimes lots of things go wrong in a day/week/month and how we treat our spouse is the one thing we can control. Sometimes it just feels good to snuggle in with our spouse and realize that we are in a safe place. Sometimes sharing a secret with a spouse is fun, because the rest of the world doesn't know (and isn't on your team).

When the world attacks put your fighting gear on, and make sure your spouse knows you're on the same team.
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